If you and your wife are like most:
- You are busy with your career(s).
- You are busy with your kid(s).
- You are busy watching or playing sports.
- Your marriage has become routine and lacks vision.
- You spend more time interacting with your phone than with your wife.
- Your wife is not as available as you would like her to be.
- You spend less than three minutes daily meaningfully interacting with your wife.
Are you falling in or out of love?
In “Falling in and out of love,” Mitch Temple of Focus on the Family explains the three stages of falling in love: attraction, acceptance (deepening levels of intimacy) and fulfillment (faithful attempts to meet each other’s needs). He points out that dating couples spend an average of fifteen hours per week together. When was the last time you spent fifteen minutes (much less fifteen hours) alone together?
Falling out of love is a reversal of this process—the moving away—from interdependence to independence. The result? Disconnected couples headed for one of these:
- Resignation to a dead marriage held together by default, for the sake of the kids, or for religious or financial reasons
- Infidelity by one spouse who seeks what’s missing in the arms of another
- Divorce, with the pronouncement, “We grew apart.”
While other age groups show declining divorce rates, empty nesters’ are growing. Why? Instead of staying connected to one another, they have poured themselves into their children’s lives. Once alone again, they are connected to no one.
Are you on the path to losing your first love?
The Bible uses marriage to explain the love relationship God has with us. While this scripture was directed to the church in Ephesus, does it describe how you love—or perhaps better stated—don’t love your wife?
“But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first! Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first.” (Revelation 2:4-5a)
Have you quit doing the things you did at first?
Do you want to get back on track?
Where do I begin?
The Good News Newspaper hosts a monthly Business with Purpose Breakfast, which provides entrepreneurs with inspiring talks by business leaders. At the end, attendees are given a networking moment to introduce their business and its purpose. When Sayuri Sosa arose to describe how her company, You & Me Time, custom designs date nights for her clients, there was a collective gasp from the men in the room as they realized that You & Me Time may provide the elixir their marriages crave.
That’s right—Sosa will help you WOW your wife and bring life back to your ailing marriage. As she says, it takes the guesswork out of making memories that count. Sosa has come to realize, “We do not remember the days; we remember the moments. The memories we build today have the power to give us stronger relationships tomorrow.”
Even after forty-one years?
Dan Cathy, CEO of Chick-Fil-A, met Sosa while visiting one of their company’s stores. As she described her services, he realized that You & Me Time could help him honor his wife and their marriage for their upcoming forty-first wedding anniversary.
According to Cathy, “I certainly have a lot of distractions and things that steal away a lot of my time and even my affections, to be quite honest with you. I have to really work to keep my priorities in order. Our marriage has to be our top priority.”
Together, he and Sosa planned a WOW moment for his wife. Their special night focused on details such as favorite colors and music, lighting, a special restaurant, their special interests, conversation starters, videos from their children, photo memories, memory making, vision creating and connections taken to a deeper level. “Sosa and You & Me Time really came to my aid as a creative source for making our evening so very special.”
With You & Me Time, your mission to reconnect is possible. As Cathy said, “Sometimes somebody has to take our hand and lead us through the process to kind of get us back on track to some of the personal elements of our marriage … that we need to be more guarded and careful and more conscious of.” He rates himself a “raving fan” of You & Me Time.
Are you mission ready?
As scripture says, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33)
In other words:
“Husband, never stop dating your wife.
Wife, never stop flirting with your husband.”
For more information on You & Me Time, check out their website, www.youandmetime.com. To contact You & Me Time, call 954-300-8662 or email [email protected].
Patricia Hartman is a forensic CPA/partner at Kofsky, Hartman & Weinger, PA, www.khwcpa.com, a speaker, author of “The Christian Prenuptial Agreement” available at www.ChristianPrenuptial.com, president of South Florida Word Weavers, and a board member at Living Water Christian Counseling.